Saturday, November 20, 2010

Mentoring our kids


As adults, it’s important to set a good example for our children and every child that we can influence. With my own children – now 27, 23 and 20 – I’ve always encouraged them to pursue their unique abilities. For my oldest daughter, it was art, science and swimming; for my middle daughter, basketball and accounting; and for my son, golf and business. One day, I can see him being a super salesman. He’s smart, has many friends and likes to socialize.
Today, at Canton’s Summit, I saw my young friend, Lee Anne. She’s about 11, a great swimmer and sometimes plays basketball. I’ve often encouraged her to join a swim team and compete. In the locker room today, I asked her what other sports she is in. She mentioned racquetball. I asked her if she ever played tennis. She said that her uncle plays tennis and is trying to teach her. I said that it’s a good sport to learn. It’s not only physical, it’s mental, strategic and fun to play with a friend. It’s a means of socializing.
After swimming (3 miles a week for 28 years now), I stopped at the library. That’s another good habit. I picked up several novels for bedtime reading – makes for better dreams and a good vocabulary. It saddens me that the throngs of people that I saw at the library today may vanish if the world turns to e-readers. Where will we congregate?
Reading opens doors to viewing other people’s lives and imaginations. We can explore and discover. We can forget about our troubles and immerse ourselves in another world – whether fiction or fact. I truly wish that more kids today embraced reading as a hobby.

Sports and reading are good places for kids to begin finding their true talents. Meanwhile, tennis anyone?

Please share your experiences in mentoring a child.

Friday, May 14, 2010

What sets L.A. apart?

On a recent visit to this beautiful city, I noticed some distinct things that make L.A. what it is. Here's a short list:

• A teenage boy who was skateboarding at midnight along an empty but safe street near LAX.

• Wine in the afternoon.

• People who are getting their fitness on – walking or hiking mountain trails, bike riding steep mountain roads or along the beach, and swimming in the Rose Bowl pool.

• The amazing trees and flowers – with bougainvillea draping fences and houses, trees stretching over roads like they can do yoga, and bursts of multibloom white roses everywhere.

• Being an instant friend to others (but does it last like it does in the Midwest?)

• Beautiful people. Youth. Smiles. Tanned skin. White teeth. High heels. Flip flops. Hats.

• Stunning houses with dreamy gardens, no two alike.

• Salad with your sandwich instead of French fries.

• The relentless traffic (that’s the only downer I have on this short list.)

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

Could it be 20 years already?

Sunrise, sunset…swiftly flow the years. It’s so true. My baby turned 20 today. He’s morphed from a 9 lb, 10 oz. bundle of joy into a 6 foot-4 young man with a sparkling personality. Of course, it didn’t happen overnight, but looking back it seems like the years moved with warp speed. Thankfully, I haven’t aged a bit (right!)

I’m super proud of Dan. He comes after two accomplished sisters who have blazed a trail that sets them apart as distinctive, interesting individuals. Dan is no different in that regard. He’s his own man. Lord, just give me about five more years of Dan as a young adult – no wife, no kids – not yet.

Happy birthday Dan and may you live to be 100 – as the Polish song goes which we will sing for you tonight over the birthday cake that you don’t want (because you don’t like sweets – but we do!)

Now, let’s turn up that punk rock and get back to living.

Monday, January 25, 2010

Health care reform - the time is now

My health care bill is $515 per month and doesn’t cover any prescription medication. It’s a $65 dollar monthly hike over last year’s rate – that about $780 more than I paid last year - a 15% annual increase. That increase comes during a time of recession and earned interest rates of about 1.5%.

To those who read this blog, we can’t let this opportunity to pass health care reform slip through our fingers.

I’ve got a young friend who is undergoing treatment for cancer at the Mayo Clinic. Her name is Emily. She’s 21 and has lymphoma. She has limited insurance. Yet, amazingly, the doctors and nurses at Mayo are doing all that they can to save her life. She is one of those people who are happy and outgoing and loving and kind. When healthy, she exudes energy and brings a smile to your face in a nano-second. It’s hard to grasp that her young life is in jeopardy.

Yet without the compassionate care provided at Mayo – through their uninsured patient fund – Emily would be not be alive today. Advanced chemotherapy has extended her life. Yet, the battle to overcome cancer is still raging. She’s due to have a bone marrow transplant in about one week. With luck, prayers and the skill of doctors, Emily will survive.

Hospitals such as Mayo cannot continue to provide this type of care without escalating the cost for its insured patients. There is no question that providing care right now for the uninsured is baked into the cost of everyone’s insurance. Yet, we continue to get less coverage, at higher cost, and the fears of paying for a major illness often keep us up at night.

In my own case, I have tried to get lower-cost insurance from the same provider but was turned down. In fact, they advertise a lower cost option as accessible and comprehensive for people who buy their own insurance – yet I don’t know who they sell it to. I’d like at least to get prescription coverage as part of my insurance. What if I got cancer? I couldn’t afford the medication. And I’m not alone.

Not being able to pay medical bills is one of the leading causes of personal bankruptcies. In 2007 – before the recession, 60 percent of people who declared bankruptcy cited medical reasons as the cause (either they were too sick to work, they had mortgaged their homes to pay medical bills or their out-of-pocket costs were unmanageable.) That’s according to a study done by Harvard Medical School.

The lead author, Steffie Woolhandler, M.D., said "Unless you're a Warren Buffett or Bill Gates, you're one illness away from financial ruin in this country. If an illness is long enough and expensive enough, private insurance offers very little protection against medical bankruptcy, and that's the major finding in our study."

The health care insurance system is flawed. I don’t think any of us can deny that. Congress is ready to finalize a health care plan. We’re almost there. We just need to wait now for Scott Brown to be sworn in as the replacement for the late Ted Kennedy. The health care plan has its critics and its supporters. It’s far from perfect, but it’s a start. Nothing in life is perfect – that much is true.

People are realizing that health care coverage has become part of our rights rather than a privilege. It can even be interpreted as such by the Declaration of Independence signed in 1776. I quote, “We hold these Truths to be self-evident, that all Men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.

Let’s define those words as they relate to our lives as Americans today.

• Life: the ability to do everything possible to live, aided by surgeons and physicians when needed.

• Liberty: the freedom to be able to get health care when you are sick.

• Pursuit of happiness: Being sick is being miserable. Yes, some people put on a brave front, others simply endure, but many cry out in pain and anguish. Easing their pain is humane. It’s American.

Let’s move on to the notion that obtaining coverage should be paid for by employers or through Medicaid and Medicare. Many people without coverage do have jobs. Their employers have decided not to offer health care coverage because of the cost and they need to stay competitive to remain in business. For our young people who are just starting out, they find that their paycheck is barely enough to cover food, rent and transportation without adding another couple hundred dollars a month or more for health care. Medicare payments to hospitals don’t cover the true cost of care. There are many older people who don’t yet qualify for Medicare who are in that same boat as the younger generation: they simply can’t afford health care.

According to the census numbers, in 2007 there were 45.7 million uninsured Americans. Yet, a report issued by Families USA showed that 86.7 million Americans (that’s nearly double) were without health care for some period of time from 2007 to 2008. Let’s see, there’s about 9 million residents in Michigan. So add another 8.5 states with the same population as Michigan and you can begin to imagine the scope of the problem.

For a few months in 2009, those Americans included two of my own children, who were dropped from their Dad’s health care coverage – and that was through an automaker that decided it was cheaper for the company to have my ex go on Medicare rather than pay for a family insurance plan. As a retiree, what do you do? We had to scramble to find coverage for our young adult children. Now, my son is covered only for the minimal needs, just to keep it affordable. And my daughter is covered by a new employer.

What are regular people saying about health care coverage? Here are some comments made by readers in Sunday’s Free Press.

• “I have insurance. But every year, I have to pay way more than I did before and the coverage is less and less. There are too many problems in the current system to keep things going as they are. Something needs to be done.”

• Another reader, responding to Scott Brown’s win in Massachusetts, writes: Hopefully, now, the Democrats will be more transparent and there won’t be any closed meetings and backroom deals. We need health care reform, but let’s do it right!

Yet another reader, Thomas Hinsberg of Detroit, makes a compelling argument that we are rallying around the Haitians in the aftermath of their devasting earthquake, while ignoring the outcry of the 30 million Americans who could be insured under a national health care plan."Is it because they are not on national T.V. or in the daily news?," he ponders.

Congress has squeaked out a plan, replete with concessions. Negotiating with special interests has surely muddied the waters. But that is no reason to keep the status quo. Reform is never easy. But not passing health care legislation is cowardly and irresponsible. Was the Civil Rights Act of 1964 perfect when adopted? No. But, it was the right thing to do for America – to end racial segregation and extend voting rights. It was a legal declaration for equality among people of all races.

Not passing health care reform would be a travesty. Where is the outrage? You might think, “What can I do about it? I’m just one person.” It’s simple: make your voice heard. Talk to your neighbors and friends – get their take on it and express your opinion. Let’s not hide and be the silent majority – not in this day and age of instant internet communication, cell phones and Facebook.

President Obama will speak about health care legislation during his State of the Union address on Wednesday night. Listen to it or watch it. In the next week, my challenge to you is to contact your representative in Congress and make your voice heard. For those who live in Livonia or Canton, that would be Congressman Thaddeus McCotter.

Let’s not forget the Emilys and our children and our seniors in this dilemma. If you have good health, do everything you can to keep yourself healthy. If you aren’t in good health, know that the chance to become healthy and get over illness should be a right and not a privilege. Right now, that right is quickly slipping away.